Hubby and I having been wondering if we should adopt again. I don't know if Gracie should be an only child. I grew up pretty much as an only child because my siblings were so much older than me. I do remember being lonely at times, but I wasn't unhappy. There are lots of things to consider mainly finances. When we went international the first time I was working full time. Now I only work part time so I can stay home with Gracie. Financing it would be a challenge for sure. I'm not comfortable with domestic adoption so I don't think we would go that route.
Perhaps I'm feeling this way because this is our travel week. I can't believe last year this time we were in Ethiopia picking up our baby girl. Hmmmm we'll continue to discuss it and see what we come up with.
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I know the fiance stuff can be tough, but I say Graice needs a little brother or sister, come join the fun, I'll have two also!!!
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Keep talking a/b it and pray on it.
Terrie,
I know that is a challenging place to be. I am an only child but I am from a large family on both sides. Sometimes I wish that I had siblings because we could all go visit my parents with our families during the holidays. I had a great childhood and I wasn't lonley so I cannot complain, but I think one other sibling would have been nice.
My parents are definitely encouraging me to have more than one child, and that was my plan anyway!
It is definitely something that you have to continue to pray about and ask for guidance. Personally, I see that there are risks with any type of adoption, anyway you slice it up, there are definite risks. There are financial risks, medical risks, lack of genetic information and the list can go on and on. Many things do not appear until later after a baby is not a baby and they are school age.
However, as believers, you have to believe in God and know that he will not put anything on you that you can not handle. It is really an intimate and personal choice that requires a lot of prayer!
I do understand what you are saying about things fiancially, but that is only for a season when a parent stays home. But, you know your situation best and what your heart desires. I hope that God grants your desire in that area.
Oh go ahead!
You may be able to get some help with Shoshanna or something now that you've just adopted and you're part-time.
My brother and I are 10 years apart so basically I feel like an only child. I always wanted siblings and still do! Thankfully I have very close friends that are like my sisters.
I don't want Baby I to be an only child even doing this alone. I think about what happens when I pass on, I don't want her to feel so alone, no father, no siblings. I so wish that I could adopt 2 at the same time. I'm praying on that also right now and finances are a huge concern for me. But what God decides is what I will do. Continue praying for your answer and look into your heart. Hugs!
That is the cutest dress she has on and looking so big girlish. It seems like their is always some type of struggle between our desires and our (financial) ability but then when we think back we wonder how we did any of it.
Like you my brother are a bit older and I grew up as an only child, but when I missed having a close sibling was as I got older. I so wish that i had a sister now but never thought about it growing up.
I just read Tami's comment and for all the reasons she listed is why I decided to adopt siblings. So many people said to me that I should start out with just one and always believed I would only go through this process just once. Now, I KNOW I couldn't do it again so I say if you can do it WE all her backing you 100%.
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